Tuesday, February 7, 2017

Sorry Friend-You Cannot Avoid Being Seen


Hey you.

I see you.

You're so sick of being in this place again. You're tired of time being sucked away by wait times and diagnostic tests. You annoy yourself by mindlessly rattling off your loved one's chief complaint, allergies, current medications, surgical histories and comorbidities. Hell, a year ago the word comorbidity meant nothing to you. Now? Now you understand things you never thought you would. Way more than you should.  And people for some reason think you're smart but you dont feel that way. You feel like you're barely keeping your head above water while treading with ten pound weights attached to your ankles while the high tide rolls in sooner than you expected.

Oh...how did I know that you're a frequent flier to the emergency room and hospital?

You wear your experience like an old  hoodie you've been meaning to throw out. You are familiar with every tear in the thread, cognizant of every stain but know the comfort it can bring when you're scared.  These hallways? No longer confuse you. The wait times? Yeah, they aren't fun...but you understand and are thankful you're not one of the family members sobbing uncontrollably in the consult room.  The after hours doctor lines? You have the numbers memorized. When the doctor urges you to go to the ER? You don't freak like you used to, you sigh and calmly gather your belongings and bring the coffee because you know it's going to be a bit. Oh, and the way you direct new comers to the waiting room and tell them where the good vending machines are...give you away too.

You are tired. Just. Tired. Between appointments, specialists,  home health aides, new medicines, sleepless nights, treatment days and trying to remember to enjoy life you are just exhausted. As you should be. You are only one person.

If I am seeing you and your struggles clear as day then those who love you have an up close and personal viewing to the inevitable melt down that is going to happen if you do not slow down and accept help.

You are not alone.

I know, it feels like it though. But, I promise you are not.

I'm going to say what you don't want to hear...what you are hesitant to do. It took me a while to do it too, but you have to it makes life easier. Use people in your life. Yes. You know those people...the ones who are asking for it, the ones who are begging for it, the ones who are always hanging around in your most vulnerable moments. Use them like they want to be used.

Take them up on their offer to help you. Let them bring you a damn meal. Talk to them. Let them sit with your loved ones. Take the time to shop, take a nap, hike or simply zone out watching crappy television.

You need a break too.

I see you.

I was seen once too, but after I hit my breaking point though. After the caregivers fatigue set in. After a blow up of magnitude proportions happened...that's when I was finally witnessed. That's when my facade of being able to do everything on my own caustically crumbled around me exposing my weakest areas. When ugly tears couldn't stop streaming and I couldn't catch my breath I knew that I could no longer deny myself the help that was readily available to me.

I could no longer deny that I was being seen. Whether or not I wanted to be noticed- everyone could see that my foundation was crumbling. My foundation didn't have the proper support. But, I was certain that my  clumsy attempt to stop the growing crevices that I was desperately trying to avoid falling into-could be bridged with my last ditch efforts of duct tape and dreams.

There is no failure in accepting help.

There is only failure when you refuse to make life easy for you in difficult times. Even the strongest of us need a day of rest to recuperate so we can continue to forge onward as our best selves.

Let them see you. The real hot mess you. And then, use them. Use them so you can be a better you.

Friday, February 3, 2017

Secret Subject Swap: February 3rd, 2017

Welcome to a Secret Subject Swap. This week 14 brave bloggers picked a secret subject for someone else and were assigned a secret subject to interpret in their own style. Today we are all simultaneously divulging our topics and submitting our posts. 

My Secret Subject:   You go to the grocery store and as you are doing your shopping you happen to look down and find $1000 laying on the ground. What do you do with it?

It was submitted by:http://www.thediaryofanalzheimerscaregiver.com/blog.html

 At one point in my life, when things were black and white, I would have immediately answered this prompt with taking the unexpected grand finding  (see what I did there...yes...I know...Im punny) to the customer service desk and being on my way. That, however, is before the  greys started shading my life in such a dramatic fashion.

I would be angry.

Honestly, I probably wouldn't even touch it. I would see a lump of money someone carelessly lost and think of all the bills I could pay with it. All the medical bills I could *maybe* catch up on for the month. I would be angry looking at the stack of cash I could not use.  I would be angry because I know how much a thousand dollars is...and at the same time know just how little it is and how far it doesn't stretch.


I would not want to get involved with the hubaloo of turning the green papers into the management and worrying if it  would make it's way back to it's rightful owners.  I would not have time to deal with it. If I was in the grocery store in the first place I would be there after work or in between appointments and meetings. I would be concentrating on labels and trying to remember what mom might choke down this week with much persuasion and cajoling since her appetite has been gone and not welcome any distractions.

I would be tired and torn.

I would want to take it and hope no one would see my desperation and overwhelming guilt as I furtively glanced back and forth.  I would have a long drawn out ethical debate on taking the cool cash.  I would ponder if I was *meant* to have it then remember how quickly I dismiss astrology and horoscopes and know I was simply trying to justify shitty actions.

So...what would I do?

Probably, at this point? Nothing. I would notice it, sigh, and continue scanning labels for no to low sodium and wonder what appointment or meeting I was running late for and remind myself to stop in the wine aisle for a nice Riesling...because damn it...self care is important too....

(I know...this isn't a fun cute post...and I do apologize.  But sometimes, you just gotta be real and let the mind journal and get thoughts out. Thanks for sticking with me as my mind went on its pessimistic little jaunt today. )

Here are links to all the sites now featuring Secret Subject Swap posts.  Sit back, grab a cup, and check them all out. See you there:

Baking In A Tornado                       http://www.BakingInATornado.com                         

Dinosaur Superhero Mommy             http://dinoheromommy.com/

Spatulas on Parade                          http://spatulasonparade.blogspot.com/

The Diary of an Alzheimer’s Caregiver       http://www.thediaryofanalzheimerscaregiver.com/blog.html  

The Lieber Family Blog                          http://thelieberfamily.com   

Sparkly Poetic Weirdo                             http://sparklyjenn.blogspot.com/       

Simply Shannon                                     http://shannonbutler.org

The Bergham Chronicles                          http://berghamchronicles.blogspot.com

Confessions of a part time working mom      http://thethreegerbers.blogspot.ch/

Not That Sarah Michelle                        http://notthatsarahmichelle.blogspot.com     

Southern Belle Charm                          http://www.southernbellecharm.com    

The Angrivated  Mom                             http://www.angrivatedmom.wordpress.com    

When I Grow Up                                    http://kimberlyyavorski.com/whenigrowup/ 

Climaxed                                          http://climaxedtheblog.blogspot.com              


Friday, January 13, 2017

Use Your Words: Friday, January 13th, 2017

At the end of this post you’ll find links to the other blogs featuring this challenge. Check them all out, see what words they got and how they used them. 
I’m using:   Suspicious ~ don’t ask me why ~ teddy bear ~ suede ~ jailhouse ~ always on my mind      
They were submitted by:    The amazing Tamara from Confessions of a part time working mom!
"Maybe I didn't love you, quite as often as I could have...and maybe I didn't treat you..
quite as good as I should have...",
Willie Nelson gently crooned from the beaten and battered radio that always stayed in the bathroom. Talia froze, with the curling iron poised ready to attack her limp locks, as the words chilled her soul. Immediately, it took her back to him, to them. To their unholy union.
Had it really been 2 years?
Months had passed without even thinking of him. At first, she was not sure how she would survive the night without him certain she could not make it on her own. She was so used to him berating her and beating her down any time she simply raised an eyebrow she had no confidence and positive that she could only exude negativity and fail in this world. She was wrong.
"You were always on my mind....You were always on my mind...", spilled from those trusty radio speakers and she moved quickly to change the station. She still couldn't listen to that song.  
His face appeared, even though she wished it wouldn't. She could see his strong jawline, the small scar over his left eye and his rough tan skin and his suede jacket perfectly in her mind's eye. She did not know where he was but hoped that one day he would serve his penance; either in a jailhouse or hell.

Besides the tiny teddy bear he had won for her at a county fair he had given her nothing but heartache and scars. Oddly enough, his loner status and intense dark brooding moods did not scare her off. She thought he just needed love. She didn't realize that he was the antithesis to love.

She spent six years under his thumb. Criticized for her weight, her actions, her words. He told her constantly how no one would ever love and accept her like he did. She slowly stopped hanging out with her friends and never had a family unit to begin with so they never noticed she wasn't around. His fists would punctuate his words. Dotting her eyes after spreading her thighs, giving her pleasure only to imprint the pain deeper. She thought, after a while, it was her. 

She was disgusting.  She was wrong. Why else would he treat her this way? She was *lucky* he stayed with her. 

Her opinions dissolved to mere nods of agreement to whatever he said, her confidence crawled away and she found herself doubting her most simple actions. She simply wanted to be the best she could be for him.

But, she was never enough. 

2 years ago in February,  she finally realized that it was never her. It was him. And, she found the little courage she had left to sneak away while he was at work and never look back.

She hadn't truly thought of him in a long time. Don't ask me why....but music transcends all.  And those lyrics which he used to croon after a six pack just attacked her soul with memories she tried to forget.


She was good.

She shook it off. She kept curling her hair and looked in the mirror to see a new face stare back at her. One full of hope and resolve.  One who left when she didn't think she'd be able to exist without him. A beautiful face that persevered and survived.

A face that was ready to face a new day and a brighter future, without him, or anyone else that dared to bring her down. 

Links to the other “Use Your Words” posts:
Baking In A Tornado                        http://www.bakinginatornado.com
Dinosaur Superhero Mommy         http://dinoheromommy.com/
Spatulas on Parade                   http://spatulasonparade.blogspot.com/  
The Diary of an Alzheimer’s Caregiver        http://www.thediaryofanalzheimerscaregiver.com/blog.html
Sparkly Poetic Weirdo                  http://sparklyjenn.blogspot.com/  
On the Border                           http://dlt-lifeontheranch.blogspot.com/
Confessions of a part time working mom    http://thethreegerbers.blogspot.ch/  
Climaxed                                     http://climaxedtheblog.blogspot.com  
The Bergham Chronicles                  http://berghamchronicles.blogspot.com 
Southern Belle Charm                     http://www.southernbellecharm.com          

Tuesday, November 29, 2016

Thank You For Being Here

Maybe it was the way the twinkly, white, Christmas lights shined from the tree? Festive, bright and happy and refusing to be dulled.  Maybe it was the merriment and bustling of people coming in the house? They were bringing contagious joy with them when they entered. Maybe it was delicious beer that sobered my soul and helped me take a breath in and accept my surroundings,  the love, my life and feel completely happy in that moment? I am not sure what exactly it was.

For the first time in quite a while, I was happy to be alive. And really happy I did not kill myself as I had intended two months ago.

I wish that did not sound so dramatic. I wish that did not sound so sad. But that is what truth sounds like.  That's what my truth sounds like for this part of my life.

High functioning depression. That's really a thing. A thing I have. I tend to do allthethings and do them allthetime. I take care of my mom,  work full time, volunteer constantly and for many organizations, offer myself to anyone who needs me am available to my friends day or night and still felt like I could do more and what I was doing wasn't enough. I could not say no.

As my therapist says, depression is a lying bastard. And let me tell you, that's the damn truth. There is a darkness inside me that I cannot shake. Some days it is manageable, other days, it steals my light and I cannot find my footing on my path in life.

Two months ago, I felt like I had no more light left in me. Life felt too overwhelming, too serious, too much, and I felt like no matter what I did I would not be good enough or be able to offer enough to this world.

And I had a plan to fix that.

I had a plan to end my life. It was neat and organized like everything else I do, because planning is essential. But, heh, luckily, life happens while we're making plans or trying to act on them, whatever. It was early on a Monday morning, September 19th actually one day after my mom's birthday,  and I had spent all night figuring out how to end my life. I popped the aspirin and was about to lie on my bed, knife in hand about to acquaint it with my femoral artery. Messy yes, but it would get the job done fairly quickly. Messy though. I'm not a messy person. Who would clean up my mess? I clean up the messes. I make things right.  I make sure things run properly.  I can't leave me for someone else to take care of.  I, for the millionth time this year, lost my shit and it was ugly.  I jumped up from my bed, crying and shaking.  Freaked out by what I was about to do, wondering how it got so bad, wondering how I had gotten so close to plunging a blade into my skin. I was covered in snot, tears and shaking in fear.

I wasn't sure what I should do. I didn't want to leave a mess but I also didn't want anyone to know how bad I was. Notice I didn't say I wanted to live? Heh. I wanted everything to somehow be okay with everyone I just needed to perfect my plan.  And with that thought, I knew I had to reach out for help. Through tears and a strained voice I called my doctor's office and spoke with her scheduler,  a saint named Peggy, who quickly ascertained something serious was going on. She must have pulled my chart because she asked if I needed to be seen because of my depression. I barely squeaked out a yes, and she put me down for the only opening a 3 o'clock.  I texted my therapist who kept me centered and...I still don't know if she realizes how much she kept me sane with texting throughout that day until a friend could sit with me til I made it to my appointment. I called my boss, my poor boss, who told me to do whatever I needed to do. She knew something was wrong and just wanted me to get better.

I made it to my appointment.  My very long appointment where we debated if I needed to become an inpatient. I was not admitted/committed...mainly because I was saying the 'right things '. My medicine was changed. I made it through that day. Barely, but I did. And the next day I had therapy, and I restarted weekly sessions with my therapist and weekly check ups with my doctor.

So badly do I want to say, that day was the worst of it. But it wasn't. It was just the beginning of working through my issues.  It was my eye opener,  it was my day 1 into really treating my depression, it was me being real with myself. I was refusing to ignore a problem any longer,  I was refusing to pretend I could do anything and everything,  I was refusing the notion I did not need help, and I was refusing to keep up this lie I had lived too long.

There have been shitty moments.  Ugly moments, questionable moments, hard moments in this journey to recover, rediscover and to live life how I should.  But? They are fucking worth it.

That overwhelming  blanket of darkness that seized my soul a couple months ago and I could not see out from beneath?  Now? It's the size of a grape. It's still there. I doubt it will ever truly go away for good. But, it can be managed.  It can be dealt with, it can be cut down to size. We have to have the right tools though, we have to accept it is okay to ask for help and there is nothing embarrassing about seeking it.

Last night,  after a Friendsgiving event,  my friend thanked me, for being here. Not there, here. Still here. And with tears streaming down my face I realized, despite the pain, despite the depression that wells up, despite the long and hard roads life can take us on...there is no other place I would rather be.

If you or someone you know are struggling with suicidal thoughts please do not hesitate to reach out for help. Call your doctor, your therapist, an accountabilty partner, 911, suicide prevention line
1-800-273-8255 or go straight to an emergency room. You matter and your life is worth living. Get with the people who can help you remember why you matter.  Depression and mental illness is a lying bastard...don't let the lies that come from the darkness destroy your light.

Thursday, November 17, 2016

Ungrateful Isn't Ugly

It is that time of year when the leaves are crunchy,  air is crisp,  and we find ourselves...overwhelmed with everything. You name it, and we got that monkey on our back, as the end of the year nears the pressure is on. Work, school, homework, inclement weather, sickness, children, finances and of course impending holidays. But every corner we turn tends to have a jolly soul reminding us that we must be thankful for the abundant blessings in our lives.

Sometimes, people may misconstrue if we do not shout our praises and thanks, that we are ungrateful. That, however, is not always the case.

Abundant blessings?

Not all of us are blessed with support,  love, necessities, materialistic items, or  -insert whatever else- that would make our souls satiated. Some of us are trying to continue with this eggshell fine existence where yes at this exact moment everything is okay but all the pieces and parts that are creating the picture are desperately clinging to one another in a fragile and anxious state.

There are people that cannot hold hands around an awkwardly dressed table vying to say  the cutest or cleverest quip to show everyone how *truly* happy they are.

Some are working.  Some are healing. Some are grieving.  Some are reeling.  Some are hiding.  Some aren't ready.
Some just aren't happy in this moment.

How do we find what works best for us in our lives?

By weeding out what we do not like or appreciate.

It does not mean they are not thankful for their life.  It does not mean they are not appreciative for what they enjoy.  It just means, at this moment in time, they need time to themselves and no one has the right to tell them how they should feel or what things in their life they should be grateful .

There will be years we sit with family and friends anxious to tell them what has made our lives so good and there will be years we wish that they skip us because we don't want them to hear the emptiness in our lackluckster answer.

We all know some years are better than others. And this year?  This year, has been a doozy for a lot of us. Although I have had my fair share of rough patches, let's not talk about those today, I will probably share what I'm thankful for if asked. But, before I do that,  I find it necessary to say - we do not just get to be there for the good.

Let me say it again for those in the back:

We do not just get to run aside family and friends and stare at them lovingly while they gush about the good stuff.  We need to be there too when they have the ugly,  painful, not so fun stuff to share.

Why celebrate the good without acknowledging trudging through and overcoming the bad? Ignoring the ugly and awkward parts of life does no one any good. It devalues our experiences and tells us that we need to just paint on a happy face and pretend the unsavory parts did not happen. But that is not healthy because what we go through...grows us and we should be cognizant of how far we have come- even if we're not at our best selves yet.

Not bursting at the seams to share your good news? Not overjoyed and caught up in the holiday hypnosis of happiness? That's okay. Not giddy and gleeful? Not full of love and good cheer? That's okay too!  Really, it is.

Being in transition, searching for what makes you happy  while being quiet does not make one ugly. Judging people and trying to tell them how feel and celebrate is ugly and narrow minded.

Being not particularly thrilled or grateful for experiences you had to survive, overcome, or battle does not make your soul ugly or you ungracious. It just means you know what you are looking for to make you happy and you will not sing the praises of things that do not make your heart sing. And yeah...that's rhymey and cute but also freaking gorgeous, because we should never settle for anything less than sets our souls on fire.

Thursday, August 25, 2016

Crawling Away

There is no shame in going after what you want or so I've heard.


What if you're the thing that's wanted and you have no desire to be pursued?


You're so used to giving in that even though it's rotting your soul to say no,  you do, because that's what will set you free ultimately.

Yet, that no you worked so hard to muster up? Yeah, that falls on self-made deaf ears. They can't hear the no...they simply hear the roar of their narcissistic self-cheerleading to go after what makes them happy.

Because,  well their happiness is all that fucking matters.

So, you say no.  And this game unfolds, one you never intended to play. There's boring banter, sad stupid words and your smile doesn't reach your eyes because you're simply trying to placate this happiness seeker til you can plan your escape.


Escape doesn't come quickly, because they've played this game before. You're just a novice up against a card shark.  And you know what they'll do if you don't give them what they want?

They'll break your legs so you can't walk.

And you realize that this quest for happiness is really just one for control. Your 'no's' are blocked out to fuel their sick version of winning. They use that no that you choked out so fiercely, my love, as a sound track (blared on repeat) so they can get hyped , one to dance to....one that they think they will know all the lyrics to and plan to dominate eventually.


There you are. Still new. Apprehension building. Still learning. Realization dawning.  Still mewing the no on your soft lips.

He laughs.

And you run.

No has never meant anything to him. He's had this planned way before you were in the picture. Because,  he's a winner and he goes after what he wants regardless of if it's a prize up for grabs or not.


You look for that escape and wish to God that you would have paid closer attention to the exits when coming into this maze. You scan every crevice wondering why he is so persistent when pleasure isn't anywhere in his vocabulary, he only knows destruction. You wait with baited breath hoping he doesn't find your hiding spot, your only solace in this cat and mouse game. However,  the moment you let your guard down, he snatches you upright.

He sucks in his breath through his teeth, demanding you straighten your spine. He roughly pulls your shoulders back,  tips your chin up, has you put your legs together and smugly walks away. He wants to see you stand tall...before he makes you fall.

Then, you hear it.

The whistle of his sledge hammer slicing the stagnant air. And with a sickening confirmation in your gut you already know where it's going. You try to brace yourself, but there's never quite been a preparation perfected for having your knees bashed out by a psychopath. The heavy hammer powers through your skin and sinew like you were nothing more than a piece of paper.

You crumble.

Not gracefully,  not artistically,  you shatter and scream, you break and are bent in the most awkward angles, you ugly cry with snot running all over your face and realize that you've never felt this kind of pain before.


You are alive, even if barely so. You survived.  You may not feel victorious in this moment, but you are.

He does not own you.
He cannot control you.
He cannot break you.

There you are. Surviving amidst a pile of ridiculous pain. Here's your opportunity to look for those exits again.

You can't run, you can't walk, but you can still move forward.  You can crawl your way out, in pain, over the jagged rocks and towards a better place for you.

I lied when I said you weren't a prize earlier.

He wanted the flimsy,  shiny Cracker Jack sticker that he could happily wear on his pleather jacket, that he would gleefully show off to people in between ape- like poundings of his chest that clearly proved his strength and prowess

You are a prize love.

But not a prize for him.

You're the best prize out there. A prize he will never get his grubby paws on again. A prize he will never even know the value of- because he only wanted the cheap stuff. He never realized your worth ran deep, your strength was solid and your determination was untouchable. He did not know the minute he tried to break you down was the minute your soul would rear up and remember you were never meant to be  tamed.

Crawl on friend.

Leave that piece of shit behind in a world where he thought he could control a situation and disregard your disengagement and your rejection.

Go slow, as you are a new you, and find your way out to a better day. Go quickly if you can endure the pain,  just....go.

Friday, August 12, 2016

August 12, 2016: Use Your Words

Today’s post is a writing challenge. This is how it works: participating bloggers picked 4 – 6 words or short phrases for someone else to craft into a post. All words must be used at least once and all the posts will be unique as each writer has received their own set of words. That’s the challenge, here’s a fun twist; no one who’s participating knows who got their words and in what direction the writer will take them.

Until now.

At the end of this post you’ll find links to the other blogs featuring this challenge. Check them all out, see what words they got and how they used them

I’m using:       

Wonderment ~ Octopus ~ Anyone ~ Organic ~ Cotton

They were submitted by:   The sweet and amazing Jules from The Bergham Chronicles !

Collateral damage.

'Damage inflicted on an unintended target', is what most people associate with it,  but I don't think that's all it pertains to really.

Unintended target makes it seem like there was a sea of people maimed or done wrong by a complete stranger with no forewarning...when in reality many of those who are causing the damage are aware of the hearts and souls they bruising,  twisting and crushing and to put it bluntly, they do not give a shit.

Perhaps they are passing down horrid habits of how they were raised,  maybe they are bullies, maybe they truly think it's okay to treat others like crud, maybe they are strung out on (choose whatever vice you please) to even notice the wreckage that they leave behind,  or maybe they're just apathetic assholes who are so conceited they think the mirror is lucky to show them their reflection.

It almost seems a wonderment that anyone chooses to pursue any kind of relationship when the past has shown us how brutally it can end for us. We can be broken,  we can be left to the wayside with organs ripped out and our soul smashed to bits, we can be left hard, callused and waiting to exact revenge on the next poor mate who crosses our path continuing the jacked up pattern that put us in the first place to begin with...


I promise when I started this I was going a positive direction,  have faith dear reader,  I'll get there...eventually.


The want, (or if you subscribe to Maslow's Hierarchy the "need"), to form loving relationships is organic and fruitful for our lives.  We need them just as much as we need oxygen and coffee to be considered alive and human. The unfortunate thing is that so many of us have been handed so much baggage and heartache that we wouldn't be able to hold it all even if we were an octopus. We become protective of our cotton candy hearts that dissolve quickly from the acid of wicked souls,  we become leary of new people and their unknown intentions and our eyes that once saw shooting stars and magnificent meteor showers only fear getting sucked into a black hole. With each ending to a relationship, with each heartache, each betrayal,  we become a little more jaded, a little more cautious...a little more unsure of ourselves.

We can begin to doubt if we are worthy of love or...even capable of loving. 

There are times that leave us speechless wondering if we are to accept the burning cities around us as our homes. Let it be known, the only time we should accept the acrid smell of burnt out dreams and hopes is when we are getting ready to start a new chapter and are using the shit we've waded through as fertilizer to grow bigger hopes and dreams.

We were never meant to be sidelined in our own lives wondering when the heroine was going to come in and save us...when we are the damn directors of our lives.

So, basically my loves,  what this long winded crappily put together post is saying is:

If you feel broken,
if you feel that you are not good enough,
if you feel like you deserve to be treated like trash,
if you feel that it's better to settle,
if you feel that it's okay to piece your life together constantly from the wreckage of an abusive relationship,
if you think you are unworthy of love,
if you think you are too fucked up to go on or to ever be loved,
I'm here to tell you babe, you're wrong.

So. Damn. Wrong.

You were never collateral damage. You were never broken. You were never something that needed fixing.  You were never something to simply be discarded and thrown away.  

You are strong enough to love yourself to realize you don't take shit from anyone.

You are strong and secure enough to eat alone at restaurants and see a movie alone.

You are strong enough to buy the sparkly too-tall sexy heels and turn your nose up at anyone who 'tsks' you for wearing them.

You are strong enough to realize that even though you've had a minor set back on the path to the most righteous you- you cannot be stopped.

Seriously,  stop. Take a moment. Look at how far you have come.  You've survived heart break, challenges and obstacles you did not ever think you'd face, you have rose above abuse, you have taken the bull by the damn horns and made your own future.

Even while scared shitless, you did the damn thing.

So don't you dare for one freaking moment give into that sad thought that you are broken, that you are what was left behind because it was no longer working, that you are not worthy of rebuilding or starting over.

You are, always, strong enough to move forward my friend.

Because, whether you realize or choose to acknowledge it or not,  you already have overcome some crazy shit like only a queen can do.

Keep rocking and never forget where you were and where you want to go.

Instead, I want you to remember when the world imploded and exploded all around you leaving you shell shocked and scared what you chose to do. That's right,  you fought through it and used it as a rock to build the foundation of your future.

Links to the other “Use Your Words” posts:

Baking In A Tornado                       http://www.bakinginatornado.com

Southern Belle Charm                           http://www.southernbellecharm.com                     

Spatulas on Parade                              http://spatulasonparade.blogspot.com/

The Bergham Chronicles                   http://berghamchronicles.blogspot.com

The Diary of an Alzheimer’s Caregiver        http://www.thediaryofanalzheimerscaregiver.com/blog.html   

On the Border                                 http://dlt-lifeontheranch.blogspot.com/ 

Confessions of a part time working mom     http://thethreegerbers.blogspot.ch/ 

Sparkly Poetic Weirdo                          http://sparklyjenn.blogspot.com/ 

Never Ever Give Up Hope                   http://batteredhope.blogspot.com 

Climaxed                                          http://climaxedtheblog.blogspot.com  

Dinosaur Superhero Mommy              http://dinoheromommy.com/