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Bringing You Into The New Year

"New Year, New Me" bullshit? Nah, I like the old you. The old you has learned and evolved and it has got you this far in life. And it smells like macaroni and febreeze. But here's a few things to remember when crossing that threshold into a new year.You will never be everything to anyone. If someone says you are their *everything* back away slowly because they are either lying or delusional.You are not a half. You are a whole being that deserves to love themselves for who they are, what they want, and where they want to go in life.You are not sorry. You do not need to constantly apologize for speaking up, for being different, for offering another perspective, for craving alone time, or liking what you like. You are only guaranteed so many breaths a lifetime do not waste them saying sorry for things you enjoy.You are not a dump. You do not need to accept any kind of trash, toxicity, garbage or anything foul from anyone-including yourself. Accept what will help grow you in…

Sunday Confessions: Dig

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Never be afraid to dig your heels in for what you want. Stand firm and refuse to back down. Sink your teeth into the best part and enjoy the victory juices that dribble down your chin.

But what if we are just holding on because we are afraid to let go? We have always been taught to fight what we need, what we want, what we desire. We have been inundated over and over again by the movies with the anticlimactic endings where two star crossed lovers finally run into each other's arms finally fulfilling their desires and destiny. We are told to never stop dreaming and to always believe in whatever we want because we can achieve whatever our little hearts desire. We are told to reach for the moon and even if we do not reach it that’s okay because we will land among the stars. But that’s not okay. Stars are hot. They are gaseous, balls of angry heat that can get up to 100,000 degrees Fahrenheit. Why would we ever want to land among them? Sometimes, we are encouraged to do whatever we wan…

Use Your Words: December 11th, 2015

Hello and wishes for the happiest Friday for you. Today’s post is a writing challenge. This is how it works: participating bloggers picked 4 – 6 words or short phrases for someone else to craft into a post. All words must be used at least once and all the posts will be unique as each writer has received their own set of words. That’s the challenge, here’s a fun twist; no one who’s participating knows who got their words and in what direction the writer will take them. Until now. My words are: cold ~ shopping ~ snow ~ flat ~ broken ~ holiday They were submitted by:http://www.southernbellecharm.com At the end of this post you’ll find links to the other blogs featuring this challenge. Check them all out, see what words they got and how they used them. **** There are times, seemingly that feel like all the time, that you are flat out broken. No matter how much love and kindness you have in your heart, you just feel empty and cold inside. Unfortunately, it hits people no matter what time of year …

Secret Subject Swap: December 4th, 2015

I'm late I'm late for a very important date—then again….better late than never right??
Sooooo sorry for the delay but warmest welcomes to December's Secret Subject Swap. This week 15 brave bloggers picked a secret subject for someone else and were assigned a secret subject to interpret in their own style. Today we are all simultaneously divulging our topics and submitting our posts.  My “Secret Subject” is:

December is National Write a Friend Month. Is there anyone, living or dead, real or fictional, that would like to write a letter to? What would you say?
It was submitted by: http://thelieberfamily.com  -Thanks Rabia!            
I have many unsent letters written in my head, stacked haphazardly, penned by regret and life's lemons that have washed my eyes clear with their burning acidic juice. There are many people I would like to write to whose eyes have now laid rest upon their heaven or nirvana, whose souls have stopped aching in this physical world and have hopefull…

Use Your Words: Friday, November 13th, 2015

Hello and wishes for a happy Friday to you!Today’s post is a writing challenge. This is how it works: participating bloggers picked 4 – 6 words or short phrases for someone else to craft into a post. All words must be used at least once and all the posts will be unique as each writer has received their own set of words. That’s the challenge, here’s a fun twist; no one who’s participating knows who got their words and in what direction the writer will take them. Until now.At the end of this post you’ll find links to the other blogs featuring this challenge. Check them all out, see what words they got and how they used them. I’m using:   anniversary ~ sleeping ~ forgive ~ rhythm ~ necessities. They were submitted by: Never Ever Give Up Hope  -Thanks Carol!

                        *    *    *The black and white words stare back at me. I read the last page first. I always do, I can't stand surprises, and I'm glad I did. "If there is one take-away message that this book can o…

Give In to Yourself

Being altruistic, having unselfish concern and love for everyone and the world around you is noble, it is kind and magnanimous. Being humble and showing selflessness because you have a social conscience is admirable. Giving grace and helping further our society with humility and humanitarianism is honorable.But it means nothing if you neglect yourself in the process.You can give the world whatever you can but if you do not give yourself a break and realize it is okay to be human and err you will get nowhere.You, yes you, matter. You with your anger and sins matter. You who are too rough on yourself matter. You who can find no redeeming qualities about yourself matter. You who replay your mistakes over and over in your head matter. You who wander and worry matter. You who have no idea who or what you are or are meant for matter.You would not treat the ones you love with the self-deprecation or disgust as you treat yourself. There is no doubt you will fail. You will hurt the ones you lo…

Secret Subject Swap: November 6th, 2015

Hello and Happy Friday to you!!! Welcome to a Secret Subject Swap. This week 15 brave bloggers picked a secret subject for someone else and were assigned a secret subject to interpret in their own style. Today we are all simultaneously divulging our topics and submitting our posts.  Here are links to all the sites now featuring Secret Subject Swap posts.  Sit back, grab a cup, and check them all out. See you there: http://www.BakingInATornado.com                          Baking In A Tornado http://themomisodes.com     The Momisodes http://spatulasonparade.blogspot.com/                  Spatulas on Parade http://sparklyjenn.blogspot.com/       Sparkly Poetic Weirdo http://batteredhope.blogspot.com                       Never Ever Give Up Hope http://thelieberfamily.com                           The Lieber Family Blog http://www.renasworld.com/                               Rena’s World http://dinoheromommy.com/                    Dinosaur Superhero Mommy http://berghamchronicles.blogspot.com/   …

The Maddening Mask

The gory blood dripping from the eyes,
wooden teeth ominously smiling,
the discontent is no surprise,
anxiety increasing and beguiling.

A disfigured and damaged face,
ghoulish green hairs sticking out,
an alien from outer space,
or a wart and a signature witches' pout.

Any of these can hide our features,
they can alter our perception,  
they can change us to be creatures,
but thats not nearly the most clever deception.

The maddening mask is none of these,
its the one we choose to believe,
the reality to which we tease,
when to lies and falsehoods we cleave.

When we close our minds,
refusing to show others whats on our hearts,
we choose our emotions to be maligned,
and our souls we willingly tear apart.

This sycophantic laughter and pasted on smile,
will obscure our needs and our reality,
and create within us thoughts that are vile,
because as much as we try we cannot live in duality.

The most frightening thing we can ever do,
is pretend to be someone else to appease others,
and liv…

Fluidity

Fluids.
In my house they have become both the enemy and our saving grace. My mother has in the last few months been diagnosed with congestive heart failure (CHF). On top of everything else she has going on we have had to restrict fluids in her diet as she fluctuates immensely in weight (fluid retention) due to her CHF.
Which means, unfortunately, we have had to restrict the woman's coffee intake.
She can handle her diabetes, degenerative disc disease, heart issues, knee problems, torn acl, but this CHF? It kicks her ass. We have to measure how much she drinks, measure and watch sodium intake, substitute salad for her soup...and of course cut back her coffee intake.
Ever since I was little I have known coffee first questions later. It's her destresser, her indulgence, her last hurrah. She cannot dance or move that well these days, her diet is quite strict, she doesn't drink alcohol or smoke anything....but coffee...coffee is her crack. No sugar, no cream, just black, bitter and…