Secret Subject Swap: October 6th, 2017

Welcome to a Secret Subject Swap. This week 11 brave bloggers picked a secret subject for someone else and were assigned a secret subject to interpret in their own style. Today we are all simultaneously divulging our topics and submitting our posts. 

    My subject is: What is something that you used to be scared of that no longer haunts      you?  
It was submitted by TaylorLife  -thank you!

I used to be afraid of speaking up. 

For some reason, I was afraid someone would look at me odd or even say something to me if I spoke my opinion or asked a question. For me, it did not matter if I was asking a question in class, speaking up against something that seemed wonky or off to me, needing my correct order at a restaurant, or politely yet sternly sharing my ideas...I found the thought of others judging me terrifying. 

But you know what? 

No matter what, people are going to dislike what you say. It might be because they hate your opinion, are annoyed by your questions or they might just not like your stinking face-it is going to happen no matter what. So...who cares? 

I really think over the years I have accepted and embraced my ZFG gene. And I am 100% okay with that. 

Life is too precious to spend worrying about what others think of you or give them power over you for their silly remarks. Life is too short to not speak what is weighing on your mind. Life is too untrustworthy to not ask questions, demand answers, or ask for clarification.

I think back on this past year when mom was denied for a liver transplant and we entered Hospice care. 

Do I regret keeping my mouth shut? Nope. Because I didn't. Not once. I said what I needed to say-to her, to my family, to my friends, to the nurses, to the aides, to the doctors. I had no qualms saying no to a party because I wanted to have a night in with mom. There was not a hesitation when people asked if I wanted them to take mom to her treatment instead of me-no, I wanted to so I wasn't going to take away that time from me. When I needed a break last year when things got sour, I asked for help for a bit and it went smoothly, because, well I asked. 

Here's the thing though, this thought process, isn't just for the big moments in life, those scary times, those ones where you are not sure how things are going to turn out. Not giving a rip should be embraced and implemented in all areas of your life. 

Have an idea you want heard at you work meeting? Say it. Want to get to those chips but are behind 2 people hogging the center aisle at the store? Say excuse me and they will move their booties and won't think you're a horrible person, that is your anxiety lying to you. Disagree with your angry uncle's misogynistic rhetoric? Tell him what a D-bag he is, and why. Can these things backfire? Oh goodness yes. Can they cause rifts? No doubt. 

But living a miserable existence trying to please other people by sewing your mouth shut is no way to live.

Here are links to all the sites now featuring Secret Subject Swap posts.  Sit back, grab a cup, and check them all out. See you there:

Baking In A Tornado                
Cognitive Script               
The Blogging 911         
The Lieber Family Blog           
The Bergham Chronicles        
Southern Belle Charm           
Bookworm in the Kitchen          
Never Ever Give Up Hope        
Sparkly Poetic Weirdo             


  1. You are brave and wise and full of heart. Truth is, we need to change how we think about things, "no regrets" should be involved in any decision. In the end, I'd rather reflect on mistakes and what I learned from them than be filled with regrets.

  2. Good for you! I was taught this as a young child and I get bolder with age. I have been labeled by company execs as a "bull moose in heat" because when I see an injustice I do not hold back. Consequently, they ask me to do their dirty work. On the other hand, when I see a kind deed I address that as well. For example, when we are in a restaurant and see kids that are respectful to their parents, polite, etc. -- I will always go up to them at the end of the meal and applaud them. One mom shed a tear in thankfulness. (But as many times as I would like to hit some of those diners over the head because their kids are so disruptive and rude.....I bite my tongue as this is wayyyyyyy too risky.)

  3. You are amazing and I want to be like you!

  4. I need to be more that way in some areas and probably a little less in others!

  5. Hell yeah! I am continually working on this. I'm too old to care what people think! If they can speak their minds why can't I? LOVE THIS. standing up for ourselves is so important.

  6. I've been told I'm intimidating because I speak my mind, but I prefer to think I'm just avoiding the bull$#!+...


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